Boundaries allow for a stable and secure environment for children. Teachers in the infant room are frequently holding boundaries so children are able to explore and play the room in a way that feels safe and predictable.
An example of a boundary that we often maintain is no climbing on the table. When we think carefully about why this behavior is happening, we can then thoughtfully respond. There are a few main things that we say:
First holding the boundary firm- “We do not climb on the table, it is not safe. Please move your body off”. This is reiterating the boundary and then offering a next step. It also offers a reason to the child as to why this is not allowed. Without offering this every once in a while, even the caregiver may forget why this boundary is in place.
If the child does not come off, the caregiver will approach closer- “Do you want to put your feet on the floor by yourself or do you need my help?“. Giving the child the choice often allows for them to feel more autonomous over their decisions. Giving two options that lead to the same positive outcome doesn’t cause confusion for you or the child.
When we see a boundary that is being broken constantly , we as teachers need to reflect on our space, trying to find the unmet need in their actions. The need to climb on the table may simply be a need to climb- “I see that you are really wanting to climb. The Pikler Triangle is a safe place to climb in the classroom”.
The teacher can also express to the child after repeated attempts- “I am not going to let you do that, I wonder what you will do next in the classroom.” and follow this up with the Pikler Triangle suggestion as well.
If the child becomes frustrated, name those emotions for them!- “I see you really want to climb on the table and you are so frustrated that I will not let you.” Feeling frustration, knowing that that emotion is happening, and acknowledging it with a trusted caregiver is essential for growing their emotional development and builds their resilience.
Reflection on the environment, unmet needs, and repeated behaviors help us to evolve and understand our space, our boundaries, and our children’s behaviors. Pushing boundaries is a healthy and important action for infants, toddlers and beyond. Although it may be frustrating for the caregivers, being sure that as team you are consistent about boundaries and language around them helps to alleviate some stress and maintain a safe positive environment for children.
